Choosing

“I am who I am because of the choices I made yesterday.” - Eleanor Roosevelt

No escape. Doomed in a way? Perhaps. Wise or even rotten… Unlike animals who operate on instinct, human beings don’t. Every minute of every day during our waking hours we make a kaleidoscope of choices, choices, choices, and more choices! Research at Cornell University estimate that we make around 35 000 decisions daily of which 226.7 are about food alone! These myriads of choices have consequences; actions of which some are helpful and serve us well, while others unfortunately don’t.

For example. Jeremy had a very stressful day at work. He was lazy when he woke up that morning and didn’t do his morning run. It set the scene for his work frustrations. He was impatient with his reporting employees and even humiliated his secretary in front of others when he lost his temper and shouted at her. After having five double whiskeys before supper, he says to himself “Should I have another Whiskey although I have had a lot already? I’m going to! No matter what.”

The sum of my life is the sum of the consequences of my choices.

Mary-Anne on the others hand, makes an excellent choice when she enrols for additional studies and successfully completes her course. She knows her family made sacrifices to enable her to study and arranges a special weekend away to thank her husband and children. The surprise shows her family how much she appreciates their support, and they spend a wonderful bonding weekend together.

Try this exercise. What were your choices today? Write them down. Also measure them. Write down which of your choices today served you, yourself, others and our environment. What were the consequences of your choices? Could you have chosen more constructively? Mary-Anne made wise choices from which she and her family benefited. In Jeremy’s case the results of his impulsive and unwise choices were negative and harmful to himself and his employees.

CHOICE CREEDO

I am personally responsible for my choices regarding how I think, feel and act in my relationship with myself, others and the environment.

Within realistic limitations of my existence, I make my life through choices.

I am always a chooser.

My choices always have costs.

My choices always have consequences, for good or ill.

The sum of my life is the sum of the consequences of my choices.


Join me to learn more about making excellent choices!

Dr.Sonia